Boylesque- the start of something good.

I sort of despaired for burlesque in London, to be honest. I'm spoiled rotten in San Francisco, with the Living Dead Girlz and the Hubba Hubba Revue, with such themes as Aslyum, Summer Camp, O Canada!, and the vaguely hillbilly Creepshow Peepshow, where the lovely zombie Girlz coated me in fake blood for the first time. There was even a Jolly Old England one. Hubba Hubba always had amazing, weird, often politically tinted performances that were sexy, entertaining and insanely creative.

Then I came to London, and it was a lot of tits and glitter, fans and feathers, yawn. Yes, the girls were pretty, yes, they took off their clothes gracefully and well, but... it was boring. There was no mad mess like when my friend P-Raw squirted sillystring all over the stage and threw around enough glitter and fake money that the stagehand commented that it looked like a drag queen had exploded on stage. There were (and are) very few hot fat girls doing burlesque. I know some people who are doing interesting stuff, for sure, and am getting to know more, but I still felt a little turned off by most burlesque unless my friends were performing.

Then I found boylesque.

All sorts of boylesque.

Femme boys, butch boys, bears and twinks galore. Oh, it was delicious. And what I loved is that this boylesque thing did two things I liked very much- appropriated what had become a female sexual performance and made it their own, and submitted men to the gaze generally, which I am a huge fan of.

I originally got into this thing in part via Filament magazine, which I encourage any of my readers who like hot men shot for a female gaze to check out. They had a great article on boylesque- men who were taking burlesque tropes and turning them on their heads. And I was hooked.

Recently I went to see the final heat for the Male Tournament of Tease, which was quite fun. I went with H&J, friends of mine from waaaaay back in Massachusetts, and the boy. It was a mixed bag- one boy who had never performed before, poor dear, and three better performers that were hard to judge as to who was the best. There was a puppet strip which was fabulous and funny, there was a Kill Bill tribute, and there was a Billy Elliot themed performance. A couple of the Bears did a Human Centipede performance that was hilarious and sick. "Finally", I thought to myself, "this is what burlesque was like in SF, and what it used to be here- funny, weird, dark, sexy!"

But the boylesque performance that sticks with me, now and always, was Brokeback Disco.  Oh, Brokeback Disco, with your gay cowboys and your synchronized de-belting of each other..! How you managed to balance between masculine and camp, silly, sweet, and sexy, I'll never know. But god, do I love watching it. Never mind that the movement of these guys was just stunning- they flowed into and away from each other so incredibly gracefully! It was stunning. I remember clutching LA and TM and going "omgomgomg can we take them home please??" when I saw them perform at the Night of the Senses cabaret.

I cannot possibly capture the hotness, the tenderness, the amazingness that was Brokeback Disco. I will link here to their video and tell you only slightly forcefully to go watch it. It managed to be homoerotic without being crass, which can be a difficult balance sometimes, especially with this sort of performance. Major Suttle-Tease knows his shit.

Convinced you? Want to see some hot male action yourself? Well, Major Suttle-Tease, who is the guy behind Brokeback Disco and who works with other fabulous artists like the Groom (who did the Kill Bill performance) and Billy Thrilliot (also mentioned above) is doing a performance with his troupe, called, delightfully, "More or Lesque!" from the 28th of June to the 17th of July. It's just in Covent Garden, so you really have no excuse to not go. Hot men, being graceful and getting naked. What more could you want? Never mind that Suttle-Tease is just a lovely guy to meet anyway!

I'm going to make an effort to go, for sure, and I'll drag the boy along. Who knows, we were going to have a fourway date with my gentleman caller and TM, so perhaps we can do a show as well... ::grins::

Thank you, boylesque. You've given me hope again.

Review: "Speakeasy"

So, I got to watch Crash Pad Volume 6, an excellent film, with the boy. 

Then, a few days later, I got to check out "Speakeasy", a porn I've been looking forward to for quite some time. I practically squeed when I opened my package from Good Vibes and it was in there with the other dvds! Now, I've been holding on to "Glamazons" and "Roulette" as well, but knew the boy would cry if I watched an April Flores porn without him, so gave my new gentleman caller the choice between queer DIY "Roulette" and porn noir "Speakeasy". As this gentleman is a waistcoat-and-tie sort of chap, I wasn't surprised he picked "Speakeasy", and I'm glad he did.

With Billy Castro as the investigator/hot glue sticking the storyline together and Lorelei Lee as the tempting blonde bombshell, this had a great mix of hot action and a great soundtrack. The sex was pretty rough, which I personally enjoy quite a bit- starting off with some face slapping and hand-on-the-neck fingering with Lorelei and the delicious Tomcat, who is in charge of several sites over at my old favourite Kink.com. Yum yum yum.

Jiz Lee gets tied up (first time I've seen them as femme-ish, actually, and I love that Jiz has hairy legs and a hairy cunt, one of my personal kinks), alone with bartenders tending to each other (Cyd makes another appearance- he is so fucking hot) and a great scene between Billy and Lorelei. Black and white mixed with colour separates the sex scenes from the storyline, which I quite liked, and there's an extra where you can watch pretty much all but the heavy sex bits, all in black and white, all with film grain, which was quite nice. And definitely get more  Billy, Lorelei and Jiz!

Watching this with my gentleman caller led to a great discussion on what's wrong with porn in the UK, why there's such a lack of queer porn here, who considers themselves consumers and what they'd like or not like about "Speakeasy" in particular and queer porn in general. We agreed that it would be good for pretty much anyone over here to watch- the D/s dynamics you see prove that you can do kink without fancy toys, and seeing trans bodies on screen is always a good start for showing people how to play with someone who is transitioning. It was really a great porn and one I look forward to watching again for sure. Grab "Speakeasy" over at Good Vibes- and remember, you can get it stream to own, iTunes ready download, or Divx download, so don't deny yourself this yumminess just cause you can't get a dvd at the local Harmony!

I think what I came away with here, watching two queer-directed, queer-starred porn films with a couple of cismen, is that EVERYONE can find the appeal in this kind of porn. There's a lot to be said for porn stars who love what they do, get to communicate what they enjoy, and then do it on screen for us to marvel at and wank to. No, it's not the same as every other porn you find at the corner shop, and no, it's not Anna Fucking Span with her women-directed-but-totally-for-men videos- and that's a *good thing*.

Review: "Crash Pad Series, Volume 6"

Some people watch porn to get off- I do, too, but generally watching porn is a nice way to see some sexually stimulating material while snuggling up with someone cute. And something I've been lucky enough to enjoy is watching some queer porn with the boy, and someone else as yet unnamed on my blog (perhaps Scurvy? I dunno. He can pick something.)

Thanks to Blowfish, who responded quite quickly to my plea for queer porn to be sent to the UK, the boy and I got to watch "Crash Pad Series, Volume 6" together. He can be a bit unfocused, so sitting to watch a bunch of porn shorts was a bit hard for him. Plus the way I watch porn is similar to the way I watch any movie- I put it on and watch it from start to finish. Still, this had enough hotness that he was glued to the screen, especially during certain scenes!

"Crash Pad" is a collection I've seen before and enjoyed- the general plot being that there's a "no holes barred sex space" where dykes, queers, trans guys, femmes and butches can go to fuck like crazy- *if* they get the key. I like the variety you see in the series, and the fact the people you see seem genuinely into the play and each other. I also enjoy that you'll get a break in the fourth wall here and there- most of the people in "Crash Pad" aren't porn stars, so they'll glance at a camera here or almost kick the boom there. I love that, because it creates this amateur atmosphere that leads to you feeling you're at a play party watching people get it on, which is always lovely.

This particular "Crash Pad" had a great cast of characters doing some incredibly hot things. I loved the dynamic between Jiz Lee (pictured) and Dylan Ryan, where Dylan told Jiz that they could do ANYTHING but kiss. Watching the chemistry and the desire to make up but just... not... going... there! was super fun to watch. There was also a great scene involving the always hot Cyd Loverboy, with James as a reluctant gay jock boy, going at it with some gusto- watching them suck each others cocks was riveting! But the scene that made the boy and I happiest was the one that had Tina Horn as a naughty girl coming home to her Dominant, Casey Grey, for confessions and discipline... oh, wow. That scene had great spankings, some excellent fucking, and the sweetest ending I've seen in kinky porn. Really lovely.

So, do I recommend it? Definitely, no doubt. It doesn't seem to be out yet, but I'll let you know when I see it on Blowfish, because you'll not want to miss this. In the meantime, check out the Crash Pad's other dvds in the series, which are also well worth watching! And keep an eye on this blog- I've written in asking about doing a scene, so perhaps while I'm in California I'll get lucky and get to visit the Crash Pad myself... hope hope hope!

Stay tuned for the next review...

Gay Shame

It's that time of year again, when thousands of baby dykes and twink homos gather together to drink themselves into a stupor in front of a parade of corporate sponsors who claim to be gay friendly as they have a float with some employee in badly done drag on it. Oh, and remember the beer will be overpriced, most of the people will be spectators who will gawk at you, and, in London, you have to keep your clothes on.

Yay!

Ok, so I sound bitter, and I am- gay pride has historically been shitty to trans people and queers, and they owe the existence OF gay pride to those very people they've ignored, displaced, and written out of gay history. Never mind that I'm against civil marriage for all, especially as it's quickly becoming one of the only ways to be able to immigrate and I think that's total bullshit. I totally agree- why should queer people fight to live lives like straight people, especially when that "normal" way of living oppresses many queer people? Why is it that white middle class men have become the voice of the gay movement? Why do we accept that like it's ok?

Gay Shame is a group that came about to fight all that bullshit, especially as it pertains to the consumerist, patriarchal crap that is often what Gay Pride has become. The SF branch, shown here photographed by Steve Rhodes, says this on their site: 


"We challenge not only the consumerism, complacency, and corporatization of gay people with power, but the ways in which a gay elite uses its newfound “success” to oppress less-privileged queers, homeless people, sex workers, people of color, and anyone else who might get in the way of gentrification. "


Fuck yes, right? Especially as London has been historically pretty shit at being respectful to trans people. 


I'll probably go. Hell, I might be organizing some kink pride group to march in the damn thing. But while it's a great costume party, please please remember as you're snogging some wasted stereotype on the pavement- there are countries that struggle to have a gay rights march, much less a pride parade. Spare a moment for them?

Review: Posture Collar, Collar with Nipple Clamps, Silver Bondage Tape

I really couldn't wait to open the box from Passion to see what I got to review. I had bought a bunch of things from them (including the teddy bear paddle I now have and the Jennings gag you'll see in the bondage tape photos) and loved their customer service. On a whim I asked if I could review stuff for them... and got a box of the goodies in the title!

First up is this posture collar. I'm a huge fan of service submission, both giving and receiving, so a posture collar is a great thing to have around! I will say that this didn't fit my boy, which is why I'm wearing it here, so keep that in mind- it's better fitted to a feminine neck (the site says it fits 12" to 18", the boy's is 17", so I'd say expect 12"- 15" or so).

It is most definitely a posture collar- moving my neck was not an option. I wasn't sure about the big O ring at first but actually for a high protocol situation it's visually quite appealing. I might add a little bell in the middle or something for entertainment. It'd also be great for human ponies! No looking at your hooves in this baby.

The other thing I liked about it is that it was vegan! Hurray for options in kinky kit for vegan perverts. Because of that it doesn't have quite the same softness a leather one would, but it'd have to be made of leather then, so there you go. I think it'd be a good addition for any vegan submissive who likes tight constraining bondage and strict collars.

Second on my sampler list was the collar with nipple clamps. As my boy had just deliciously gotten his poor little pink nipples pierced through for my delectation, again this fell to me to model (I'm guessing you all won't mind). This was kind of sweet- again, it's the sort of thing I'd put on a service submissive to keep them alert as they did chores around the house, as the nipple clamps weren't TOO painful but just painful enough to make you aware they were there.

Again, this collar is also vegan, and I quite liked the fit of it- in addition it'd easily fit the boy's neck, which has been hard to put collars on. I quite like the chain, which is good and sturdy, not the B&Q crap you get on some such S&M equipment. The way the chains are just heavy enough to drape elegantly between my breasts was quite pretty I thought! I definitely foresee this getting a lot of use, whichever one of us is the bottom at any given time! Maybe during the next football bet the boy and I make... (slightly harder now that the US and the UK are both out of the World Cup...)

Finally, I got some silvery bondage tape. Now, I'm not historically a fan of bondage tape- I'm a cling film and duct tape sort of girl. But actually, when the boy was made into a sexy, silver-eyeshadowed dandy, tied and ready to be tortured... silver bondage tape was really nice, and while I had to use a fair amount to wrap him properly, it was quite pretty. I'm sure you'll agree...

Getting some bondage tape to review made me want to try playing with it again. It's really nice for some quick, simple arm bondage, or making into a gag or blindfold. And of course it can make a simple, quick outfit for a night out (though wrap it well or sweat will make it a rather exposing experience!). Plus, how hot does the boy look all tied up in it?

Incidentally this is also the Jennings gag I got from Passion, which matches the tape beautifully, don't you think?

My favourite out of these three things was definitely the collar with nipple clamps. Both functional and elegant, and vegan of all things, I foresee some filth coming out of playing with that collar. I guess the boy will have to Top more though, for a while, so his nipples can heal properly!

The best thing I found about Passion, though, is the variety of toys they have (teddy bear paddle! so hard to find!), at reasonable prices. Definitely, if you're in the UK, give them a looksee!

if you want to watch a live sex show, look no further (nsfw photos)

Ok, so, generally I don't advertise people on my blog, but next week my friend Chloe is coming for a visit with her boyfriend, and they do these incredibly hot live sex shows. They're incredibly kinky, too, and it's just a pleasure to see how much Chloe enjoys being used by her Top.

I'm giving them a shoutout because Adultwork is a cunt and has shut down their profile temporarily, and they're a bit nervous about exposure. Well, you know how much I like exposing people (in sexy ways, anyway) and they're just such a lovely, real life couple that I felt I'd be amiss if I didn't mention them on here. And they're only here for 1 week! June 21st to 29th. So get in quick!

I can't even begin to tell you how envious I am of her body, but hey. ;) Not envious enough to try to force mine!

Now, to give a bit of background, these are folks I know via Kinky Salon in San Francisco. So you know how I'm all hot-crazy-American-slut? Yeah. They're like that too. Plus they're both incredible artists, she does burlesque, he plays and (I believe) composes music... They're both just brilliant. Highly recommended- and, you know, you'd be like a patron of the arts. Or something. While wanking to an incredibly hot couple doing a kinky sex show just for you. I'm tempted, personally! It might give the boy an education in Topping...

I'm copy and pasting the text of the ad they use on Craigslist (so, yes, please keep that in mind if the language seems a little playful and filthy): if this interests you, let me know and I'll forward your details along (I'm setting them up with a mobile number when they land on Monday).

Come over to our hotel room and see me get f*cked and treated like a c*ck sl*t while you watch. Watch me get on my knees and s*ck his yummy c*ck, get eagerly throat f*cked, display my spread p*ssy and a*ss for you, and then get f*cked hard in lots of different positions until he pulls out and makes me swallow his c*m or shoots it all over my pretty face and ti*ts ; ) I LOVE being a good little f*ck toy, being manhandled, getting spanked, having my hair pulled, worshiping his c*ck, being talked really dirty to, and being used HARD for your enjoyment. 

It's just like your favorite dirty video, but live in front of you!

You get to direct your own private show or just sit back and enjoy. We LOVE fantasies, fetishes, sl*t games, toys, k*nky role-play, verbal interaction, being directed, and I adore dressing up in naughty outfits and slu*ty high heels.  Stroke your c*ck and let me watch you! Being used as a f*ck toy in front of an attentive stranger is one of my biggest turn ons, so don't be shy... talk as dirty as you like to me, tell me what how you'd like me to s*ck his c*ck and what positions you wanna see me get f*cked in, and move around to get the best view of my mouth and p*ssy being used.

I'm a total c*m sl*t, and I'd LOVE to watch you c*m while he shoots his c*m in my mouth! ; )

We're a real couple and we put on a very intense and intimate show.

I'm a beautiful, submissive, playful, dark-haired petite vixen. 24 years old, 5' 7", 120 lbs. Model looks, exquisite gym toned body, beautiful face, gorgeous skin and eyes, and exceptionally sexy feet and long legs that I love to show off. 

He's extremely dominant, incredibly sexy, handsome, strong, confident, demanding, lean and muscular. 28 years old, 6", 170 lbs.

£140 hour incall
£165 hour outcall

~ Incall available at our upscale hotel in Mayfair ~

Our pics are recent and 100% us!

Read our reviews at the Erotic Review: http://www.theeroticreview.com/reviews/show.asp?id=130649

For an extra £35 you can also have my warm used panties that I'll take off and give you to enjoy and take home with you to remember our dirty adventure!

Couples most definitely welcome ; )

Please DO NOT contact us if you're looking for sex or physical interaction. This is ONLY a show.

what would you do (trigger warning)

There's this show on ABC, called "What Would You Do?" where the idea is to see how people react to ethical choices. There's been a few now, like what would you do if service was refused to gay parents, or if a manager was sexually harassing a worker of his. The one that got to me was the situation of "would you help a battered woman"... and "would you help a provocatively dressed battered woman".

The difference between the reactions received, depending on *how she was dressed*- not his abusive behaviour, which stayed the same, but on her *clothing choices alone*- is just appalling. And disgusting.

To sum up for you- when the actress was dressed in jeans and a teeshirt, whether a Caucasian or African-American couple, people came to her aid, telling the boyfriend to back off and calling the police. When she was dressed in a low cut dress (or a dress at all, mind- one of the dresses was actually rather modest as well), however, no one did, even when he was physically abusive, nearby women whispering to themselves that maybe she was a prostitute.

Oh, of course! Because THEN violence in public is totally ok! If you're a sex worker, then abuse in public is par for the course, you can't expect people to get involved- I mean, it's none of their business, right?

"The reaction from the onlookers is both hopeful and discouraging.  In the scenarios where both the Caucasian “girlfriend” and the African-American “girlfriend” are dress conservatively, other diners appear concerned for the abused woman and offer to help her right away, ultimately confronting the abusive “boyfriend.” But, in the other two scenarios, both the Caucasian and African-American “girlfriends” who are dressed provocatively, do not get any assistance from the other diners in the restaurant.  In the video it is clear that the diners are bothered by what they are seeing, but their concern, surprisingly, is not for the safety of the “girlfriend,” but for the dignity of the couple.  Some diners even mention to the couple that they are embarrassing themselves." -from this Women's Center blog

I noticed in the comments that some women pointed out that, in an abusive situation, they might not have control over what they wear- which is a fair point as well, though it kind of smacks of "you should try to help me anyway, because I'm NOT a whore, I'm a good girl in a bad situation".  I also want to point out that the conversation between the actors, in the "provocative dress" situation, never said anything about her being a sex worker- rather, about whether what she was wearing was appropriate in public. Other people decided to interpret that as her being a hooker, and behaved accordingly.

Let me break this down for you, real slow.

No woman deserves to be abused. I don't care what they do in their personal life. I don't care how they're dressed. No woman deserves to be abused. EVER.

Got it?

I notice this a lot- no one really wants to talk about it, but there is an underlying attitude that some women are to be protected, and others are not. As part of the unprotected class, I want to point out this is EXACTLY why we need prostitution to be decriminalized or legalized- because no, we can't depend on other people to help us, and having some safety, however flawed and fucked up that can be from the police, is vital.

One woman felt so guilty about it afterwards, too. "I could've done more", she said. Well, sure. You could've. You saw the bruises. You saw him GRAB HER BY THE FUCKING HAIR. A middle aged couple of women asked to be moved, and said "she looks like she might be a prostitute, and he's her pimp" as if that justifies it. I could've thrown up I was so angry when one couple who witnessed this said "yeah, it would be better if that happened in private". Really. Because then it wouldn't offend your delicate sensibilities on how the world works, I guess. WTF.

Days like this I hate the world, I truly do.

I'm telling you, right now- she never deserves it.  And if you sit back and watch and do nothing, not even call 911? You are complacent in her abuse and should rot in hell.

Kitty- 1, the boy- 1

So football isn't really a sport I get into. I'm more of a World Beard and Moustache Championships girl myself. However, for whatever reason, the boy and I decided to bet on the outcome of the UK vs US match. Winner got the submissive scene of their choice. Not a bad deal, right?

Well, as there was a tie, we decided to do both scenes.

Each one was a scene we wanted to do more of but our partner hadn't quite gotten to it yet- for him, of course, it was a sweet ageplay scene, around bedtime, complete with diaper ritual and reading my little boy a story. I wanted to experiment with doing it from the Mummy side, as well, so lots of new stuff! My scene was a bit darker- a Daddy/girl thing where my Daddy would show me who was boss and give me some rough sex while I was bound. He is, I think, often intimidated by being the Dom, so this was pushing his comfort zone a bit too.

Both scenes went really well, overall, in their own ways.

With his, we got things together- baby powder, a storybook, lotion, a diaper, his footed sleeper, a pacifier, a stuffed animal. We also made sure he had some water in his sippie cup before bed, and he took his contacts out so he couldn't see very well. Then I had him show me how to put the diaper on him- which I actually found to be more... I dunno. Bonding than I expected it to be, I guess. Dusting him lightly with the baby powder, then rubbing him tenderly with lotion... it was kind of sweet, and taking care of him in a way I tend to shy away from taking care of people. But it was nice. I found that I liked the ritual of the diaper more than I cared for the diaper itself, as an object- like putting a collar on a kneeling submissive, it set the scene and allowed us both a minute to get into the headspace, away from the day-to-day.

Then I stuck the tabs on and helped him into his footed sleeper, patting the bed next to me and inviting him to crawl into bed with Mummy and hear the book "The Boy Who Cried Fabulous" read to him. He's quite a good little boy when he's in this headspace, which in some ways makes it easier, but sometimes means it's a bit far away from my experience with daycare, where kids whine about naps and say they aren't hungry when they are, etc. Anyway, he responded very well, and because he couldn't read the book, he HAD to listen to me, he couldn't read it over my shoulder- which, again, was sort of intoxicating, knowing he depended on me for it. After the story, we snuggled and I shut the light off for us to go to bed, surprised that I didn't really mind when he called me Mummy. Having read Lee Harrington's essay in the Power Exchange Guide to Ageplay about tough, ass-kicking, non-gender-conforming Mummies I think helped me get in touch with my inner Mummy side.

The next day, though, it still felt weird waking up to him in a nappy. All the other bits I can deal with, I'm finding- the footed sleeper reminds me of my Burner friends, for example, not too off the beaten path, and pacis, well, um, the rave scene kinda covered that one. Nappies, though, still feel taboo and a bit strange, and in the morning, I just felt like I wanted my boyfriend (and my boyfriend's cock) back. We talked about it a bit, and had some nice sexy time, and I felt better. It also helped that the next day I was able to play the little girl role when we went to Whitstable, so I got my own time to be pampered. I think when we do it that way, where I get an immediate head-petting of my own, I feel better about it. I'm interested in trying it again, but I keep feeling like there needs to be more stuff to do- or I need to be able to put a Disney movie on and have him entertain himself!

Read his side of things here at his blog! I'm quite pleased it went well for him too.

As a side note- I found the Power Exchange Guide to Ageplay to be fabulous. I read a review by Penny saying how you could find all this info online for free, and it was formatted poorly, and frankly, yeah, the formatting and the grammar/spelling was dreadful. Don't even get me started on the photo! HOWEVER, that said, it covered the parental side of the interaction, and not just in a straight way, which is hugely different than stuff I've been finding- and believe me, I've been looking! So I think it's not the resource it could be (and I desperately want to see another book on this subject, preferably edited by someone like me, who is curious but doesn't fully get it, as I think we're the ones who need a resource like "when someone you love is..."! If you're interested in seeing this happen, contact me, yeah??) but it's not a bad place to start. And it's a lot better than Diaperspace.

Anyway. So then came my scene, a Daddy/girl scene that was going to be, in my head when I proposed it, all about the bondage and spankings and slappings and tears. But when it came time, I just wanted to be Daddy's good little girl, and do as he said, and be told how precious and special I was. Granted, I still wanted the bondage, but when the boy asked if I'd stay put I said "anything for you, Daddy" and really meant it. I like being good, I've found. I've always preferred discipline to punishment and I guess this scene was really mostly about me feeling sexy, loved, and cherished. And, not surprisingly considering the current instability I've had in my "real life", I wanted to be told that he'd be there for me forever. The idea of having something to hold onto, some stability, was what I really clung to from the experience.

Oh, well. There was also some incredible fisting. ::grin:: That helped my anxiety a lot- I slept so soundly after that!!

All in all, the sexual favour betting on football? I'm a fan.

Review: "Going Down" (NSFW pictures)

Going Down: The Official Guide to Cunnilingus

Also in the Pleasure Ed series, "Going Down" covers giving head to women, hearing from a nice mix of men and women who love to give oral sex to women. There's a good anatomy lesson to give the viewer an idea of all the various bits of a cunt, which is good as from my own sex ed experience they were pretty crap about it! Amusingly, in this one I did learn something, in the positions section- put a pillow under your chest if you're giving cunnilingus to a woman on her back with her legs open, so that you're not straining your neck. Duh, right? But that never occurred to me. :O

In this one, I appreciated that two of the women had trimmed pubic hair, that you heard from men and women who enjoyed giving oral sex to women, and that a couple of people mentioned how hot it was that it was so messy. I particularly like that because I think that while men's balls are expected to be sweaty and their cocks spew cum everywhere, there's a belief that oral sex on women should scentless, sterile, and tidy. Fuck that noise! I'm a huge fan of the primalness of sweat and scent and hair. Yum.

Here's one thing I found interesting- in "Heads Up", there was no discussion about people feeling uncomfortable receiving oral, but in "Going Down" there was a brief mention of how some people feel receiving cunnilingus isn't something they deserve, or they don't want to impose, or how they don't like how their vulva looks/smells/tastes. I have to admit though, I never met a man who felt he didn't "deserve" a blow job! But I've met loads of women who are uncomfortable or awkward around receiving cunnilingus.

I also like that Carol talks a lot about how it can take a while for women to get aroused, and that there's a lot of ways to arouse a woman beyond her pussy/clit- not just physically aroused, but mentally, too. Making your partner feel like you find her whole body erotic is almost ALWAYS hugely important, so that was a good thing to mention. I also liked that she says that starting on the clit right off the bat can be irritating, overwhelming, and uncomfortable for women- so don't dive onto the clit first unless she specifically says to! And it made me laugh when Carol says "the clit is NOT A DOORBELL. That means, you don't poke poke poke it, with your tongue or your finger!" Good advice. "Not erotically impressive" is a very nice way of putting it. (btw, that's not my pussy, I don't shave, but I was taking photos, hehe)

I loved that in one of the scenes, the guy actually does the alphabet technique- spelling out the letters on her pussy. It's cutely endearing. And the noises Madison makes in this one are adorable! And in this one, there is girl on girl pussylicking along with the use of a glove and cling film for safer sex- yay for porn with safer sex in, especially things other than just condoms! And with both of these I love that they've left the mid-play negotiations in- the occasional "more fingers please" or "pull my hair" or "more of that". It shows that communicating your desires during sex is possible- and kinda hot. And oh, yes- the "more Sir more Sir more Sir please Sir oooooohhhhhhh goodddddddd" makes me kinda wanna be Sir more often. Mmmmm.

I'd watch both this and "Heads Up" again just for the sex scenes. I think that "Going Down" was better when it came to showing multiple ethnicities, multiple ages, multiple sizes, multiple sexualities. Of course, having been at the filming, that has everything to do with who showed up and what they talked about, so it's certainly not the fault of the Pleasure Ed series! I have no doubt they'll continue to get better, and look forward to seeing more in the series. I know Carol mentioned an anal play one, and a bondage one... pretty please do one on ageplay. Carol? It would help me out so much!

So yeah. I wasn't sure how I'd feel about these, initially, as I am of course the master of all sexual techniques. ::cough:: But I did learn something, actually, and I was reminded of how hot dental dams can be, and it re-inflamed my love of pubic hair, and was just generally the best 2 hours I spent watching educational porn. Considering the number of clients I've seen who have sighed and said "my wife/girlfriend won't let me give them oral sex/won't give me blow jobs", I would say- get these! They're definitely couples friendly, and offers a lot in the way of support, acceptance, and encouragement, all the while making oral sex hot and fun. Well done Carol Queen, and well done Good Vibrations, who sent it to me!

If this sounds of interest, no, you can't borrow my copy, go buy your own at lovely Good Vibrations. You can get Heads Up (reviewed previously) or Going Down in DVD format (though for my UK consumers, remember it'll be zone 1) or multiple methods of download to own, if having a physical DVD doesn't matter to you. Oh, and I'm a Good Vibes affiliate, so feel free to click their link on the left hand side of the page to browse (and buy!) loads of gorgeous porn, wonderfully made sex toys, and some great books.

(photos of my exploits, not from the dvds, added because, well, you seem to like seeing sexy photos. pervs.)

Review: Heads Up

Ok, so I'm a bit biased. I'm in this, talking about my love of sucking cock and eating pussy, credited as a Community Voice with other fabulous San Franciscans, including the lovely Lady Monster. ::grin::

So, yeah, just a bit biased. And a bit chuffed, to be honest! :D

Heads Up: The Official Guide to Fellatio
But anyway. Ahem. "Heads Up" is part of the "Pleasure Ed" series of DVDs. An excellent mix of sexual education, sexy real people enjoying the giving and receiving of blow jobs, and people (like me!) offering techniques that work for us. Now, the San Franciscan in me didn't learn much from it, but loved loved LOVED the hot cocksucking with real people. I also really liked how they showed some flaccid cocks in the beginning to show how different they can look, and how that's ok.

I quite liked the older couple showing how to thoroughly enjoy a semi erect penis, though I especially liked the younger, kinkier couple with their dirty talk- the sweetest moment was when they checked in midway through the filthy "you're such a good cocksucking bitch" for a kiss and an exchange of "I love you"s. Awwww!  Bless! Also, in the hot scene with Madison Young and the mischievous look in her eyes and the laughing with her enjoyment made it really sexy and fun to watch. When she says, after he cums in her mouth, "it tastes like you", the way she says it, with such sweetness, is truly lovely.

I liked how it was shot- it felt a lot more like watching people at a play party go at it, rather than watching porn performers. I also really liked that Carol Queen, who presents and guides us through the dvd, mentions a bit about intersex and trans bodies, though I kind of wish it covered that a bit more. In my ideal world, there would've been a transguy discussing how he likes his phallus played with, and a bit of guy on guy to make it less heterocentric. That said, I liked the variety of bodies represented, and I really liked the bit with the semierect cock- that translates very well to my experience with disabled clients, who I think might watch this and realize that just because they can't get erect or cum from oral doesn't mean it's off the table for them!

Who would I recommend this DVD for, then? Well, if you have a partner who is a little nervous or squeamish about cocksucking, this might be a good thing to check out, because it's presented in a fun, sexy way. Personally? I'd show this in a sex ed class- I bet teens would pay attention (though it might've been better with more safer sex shown, like condoms being put on using the mouth, etc).

Review: CyberDyke (photo heavy, NSFW unless you've got my job)

As a queer girl who likes smut, I really quite enjoyed checking out the various sites on offer under the CyberDyke banner! Over here in the UK, there's not a lot of lesbian porn, especially lesbian porn with Real Lesbians in it, not just girl on girl stuff. So thank God for the internet, I say!

There's about 11 sites you get access to when you join CyberDyke... not shabby at all. Unfortunately I only got a chance to explore 4 this time around, though I definitely plan to beg Roxxie for another go. ;) I mean, check out some of the women that model for these sites! Totally droolworthy. And as I know some of the models from San Francisco, I know for a fact that a lot of them are kinky (some are even highly active members of the queer/kink scenes), love what they're doing, and are into girls in real life. That makes it all way, way hotter.

Posteriority is the cleverly named site all about delicious women and their curvy behinds.

Whether they're masturbating in such a way as to show their asses off or engaging in some hot anal play, this is THE site for women-made porn of this type, both video and photos.

As someone who really appreciates a well-made anal video, this site had plenty of cute girls going to town. I liked the array of body types and how pretty the shots were- considering generally anal play is still filmed as dirty stuff, seeing this site showed how sensual it can be.

I also liked the focus on lingerie and setting- while it's definitely about appreciating a fine posterior, there's lots of look at regardless of what you fancy- I particularly liked this shot with the green girdle, as someone who adores vintage lingerie!

Roxxie's Foot Femmes is for the foot lovers out there (of which the boy has, inexplicably, become one- I think it's all the foot massages I make him give me).

While feet don't do it so much for me, stockings, knee high socks and sexy shoes definitely can, and this site had those for sure. Mmm. And, frankly, while when I first went onto the site I was thinking, hmm, yeah, feet, I guess... photos like this one changed my mind right quick. It's the little touches (that foot belongs to another sexy, tied up girl- toe licking as a dominant act, very nifty and intriguing!) like the lipstick on the nylons, the pretty headpiece, the colours in the shot... very nice.

And, if you like a bit of splosh mixed with your foot fancy, there's some delicious cupcakes being crushed between toes, among other things! I saw some grape smooshing, some ice cream, all sorts of fun messy play involving feet. Quite sexy and fun.

DarkPlay is for kinky lesbians. And I absolutely fucking loved it. It's not all "lalala rope and lingerie", it's got all sorts of fun stuff, from electrical play to crying to self-fisting to... girls playing WoW..? Well, yes, actually. I enjoyed the variety, as per usual with CyberDyke's sites, not just of activities but ages and even some butches in there (finally!) I got the impression that the participants got a chance to say what they wanted to do, and then got photographed or filmed having a good time.

I was happy to see Dylan Ryan in there, and Madison Young, along with Penny Barber and lots of other incredibly hot queer women. Yum yum yum.

I also like that it's not overly soft and fuzzy, the way a lot of girl-on-girl kink tends to be. This is occasionally rough, and I like that- I enjoy watching these girls do the kinky stuff they're pretty likely to do left to their own devices anyway!

Girl Tools is my final review on this particular set- basically, it's sex toy reviews with videos of the girls trying out the toys before the reviews. What a brilliant idea! Rather than just reading how much they enjoyed this toy or that, getting to see them in use made me want to go out and buy loads of toys. It's like educational porn. Wait, it *is* educational porn.

This one is mostly videos linked to the reviews, which is kind of cool. There's a LOT of videos with the Hitachi, I have to say- and if you don't have one, and like clitoral stimulation (or vibes on the head of your cock, as the boy found out) then this site will persuade you. Every review also covers where it was gotten from and for how much- and no, they don't like everything!

Ok, seriously, even if just for these four sites, I'd recommend the CyberDyke membership. But you also get things like Shaved Dyke if you like hair removal (I do, omg, being shaved is soooo hot) and Miss Amanda for you lingerie fetishists. Yum. Seriously, it's $20 for the first month and $15 after that. That's like, £14, then just a tenner. It's so, so worth it, so please support them and the amazingly hot porn they produce- SFers are spoiled, but when you're living in the UK, being able to see hot queer-produced queer-featuring porn is a rarity. Recommended!


Also, check out their blog- a good mixture of politics and behind the scenes.


Thanks Roxxie for letting me check this out. xx

is honesty the best policy?

When you pick up a sex worker, you are picking up the embodiment of a fantasy you have. Right?

That seems to be the general consensus, but I actually disagree to a certain extent. Ok, ok, not that anyone will be surprised to hear this from the girl who brought you blogs about everything from how I'm not generally lounging about in lingerie waiting for your call to male privilege to how clients can affect the worker they see- both positive and negative. You've read about breakups that crushed my heart, the death of my beloved cat, going to Burning Man and sexy parties. I haven't pulled punches on my thoughts about sissification, rescuers, Gor, and even polyamory. My blog is a personal one, I just link it to my professional sites. You get the Real Kitty Stryker in these words. If that's your fantasy, fantastic! But I'm not just writing smut in the interest of getting more work (that said, I'm thinking I might post more smut...). I post about the things I care about.

It was mentioned to me, and it wasn't the first time, that perhaps the fact that in this blog I wear my heart on my sleeve gets in the way of bookings. Maybe clients see, say, my post on my struggles with poly and see me as an emotional girl dealing with a lot of crap and they don't book because of that. It's possible. It's the risk I run. But I don't think most of my clients book me because they want a sexy chick to fuck them in the ass. I think they tend to actually like me, and the intimacy I'm willing to offer, the fact that I am, in fact, a Real Girl and I'm not acting out a part.

I like to think, at least, that the people I meet want someone who truly enjoys kink and sex, and loves her work. Someone who will say "no, that won't make me cum, but try this instead". Someone who will teach them, guide them, who will allow for a mutually enjoyable encounter instead of a playacted one. I feel like they come to me for the experience, not as a hole to stick their cock in. And from the number of conversations I've had with clients, I think they like that I'm opinionated and will say what I think.

But I don't know. Am I missing out on clients because I'm so honest and upfront? Is it an attracting factor, or does it scare people away? I'm not sure. It's an interesting question, and one to think about for sure...