I get asked in person all the time for advice relating to sex, gender, sex work, kink, consent... basically alternative sexuality. There's not a lot of good information for a pervert traversing the world of social mores on the sexier side of the street- and what there is tends to be heterosexist, not particularly feminist and, at the very least, often classist. That's not really the world a lot of my pervert friends live in.
At some point one of my friends turned to me and said "you know, you really need to have a kinky Miss Manners column" and I thought "ooooOOOOoooo".
But where to have such a thing? Who would take it on? At first I thought about asking the East Bay Express or SF Weekly but quickly realized that maybe I should be spreading my wings and looking past my doorstep. A lot of people keep telling Maggie and I that we need to be on Dan Savage's podcast talking about Consent Culture (to which I say, write and tell him so).
So instead, dear readers, I'll just ask you! Where do you think I should pitch this plan?
In the meantime, you can always ask me questions via Formspring by clicking on the "because ponies" image on the sidebar or clicking here.
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While it's a good idea in your case, there's one problem: EVERYONE wants to do an advice column. When I was editor at a website, you can't imagine how many fucking pitches we got from people who wanted to do an advice column. Part of the reason, I think, is that certain writers think that it'll spare them the trouble of having to think up ideas for their next column because the questions will just come rolling in, giving them ready-made inspiration. With the couple of advice columns we did have, it was an amazing pain in the ass getting questions that weren't repetitive, tedious, or just over the edge. So I think that any pitch that you do is going to have to struggle to avoid the trained response of editors to roll their eyes as soon as the words "advice column" appear. Spreading your wings is a good idea, but I think that your pitch will be most successful with people who have experience with your work or know you in person. The best thing to do is look through the columns out there so that you can figure out a quick answer to "Well, what's so special about YOURS?"
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